|From day 16|
We’ve been really busy for the last several days, and trying to give Lily a lot more “awake time” during the day so maybe she’ll sleep at night. We’ve had mixed success thus far (she’s just starting to fall asleep in my lap as I write this at 3am), but we figure that at least this way we can interact with her while *we’re awake*, instead of when we’re only half conscious at 4am. She’s been (overall) very good, and really only fusses when she’s hungry. The problem is that she’s hungry almost all the time!
We took her back in to be re-weighed on the “hippo scale” yesterday and she had only gained 2 ounces in a week. While the continuing weight gain is good, she should be gaining a lot faster than that. The doctor recommended a rather insane regimen of “nurse for 10-15 minutes on a side, and then pump while supplementing with formula, repeat”. I’m guessing none of the women reading this will be surprised that the doctor recommending this is a *man* (who has obviously never had to breastfeed). Like a lot of doctor prescribed regimens, I’m sure it works great on paper..
We took this, went home and did more research and asked more people. Now, as any of you have had children will be painfully aware, ask two different people for parenting advice and you’ll get three different answers. In our case, we asked a lot more than two, and everyone has a different answer. We seem to continually get the “thing X worked for my kids and I swear by it. Every parent HAS to have/do thing X” type of advice from everyone. Now, I certainly appreciate any and all advice, and all anyone can speak from is their own experience, but many people don’t consider the fact that EVERY parent/child combination is different and will have different levels of success with different solutions. Nothing (especially when it comes to humans, and doubly so for babies) is fool proof.
Just to digress further (it IS a blog, after all), lets take baby swings as an example. We’ve heard “oh you HAVE to get a swing! My kids loved it!”, and we’ve heard “my kids never had a swing and they turned out just fine”. I mean, I guess we just find someone who has a swing (Auntie Lisa in this case) and try it to see how Lily will like it. In the case of feeding/pumping/sleeping schedules, there are zillions of combinations and takes on it, and we’ve been trying different ones for two weeks to figure out what works. One woman even recommended that Jill drink a Guiness once in a while so the hops in it can help stimulate her supply. The Irish in me likes the way she thinks…
This is all further compounded by the fact that one of the traits daddy passed down to baby is my ability to be (at times) quite random and inconsistent (for those who care about astrology, I’m a Gemini and Lily’s a Sagittarius.. nuff said). In other words, what works really well to put her to sleep or make her stop crying today may not work at all tomorrow. At least we keep Jill on her toes.
Aside from her “comfort nursing” (just sitting and sort of sucking for comfort but not really drinking, so not getting enough to eat), Lily is doing everything we could hope/expect that she would be doing at 16 days old. She has been awake more during the day lately, responds well to us talking to and playing with her, and is getting really good at pushing herself up with her feet when we’re holding her. This last bit has caused a few scares as she will suddenly push up with her feet and almost go topping out of the arms of an unattentive adult. It’s cute though, until someone gets hurt. Wow that sounded like my Mom…
We’re still both amazed at how little, yet “fully formed” and “part me, part Jill” she is. Some days, I see parts of her face that look like my brother’s daughter (which means she looks like him, which means she looks like me), and some days I see parts of her that totally look like Jill, just in miniature. As an example, she definitely has my big Woyak feet, but right now they still fit in these little tiny socks (on my hand for scale).
|From day 16|
She’s passed out now, so I’m going to attempt to put her to bed. Wish me luck.